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The renowned 19th century Lakota Medicine Man,
Black Elk, once described his vision of a great universal peace among men,
stating:
The first peace, which is the
most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they
realize their relationship, their oneness with the universe and all its powers,
and when they realize that at the center of the universe dwells the Great
Spirit, and that this center is really everywhere, it is within each of us.
Similarly, in the beginning of the Gospel accounts, a host
of angels celebrates, “Peace on Earth, Goodwill towards men” with a handful of
shepherds working the night shift as the Christ child is born nearby in
Bethlehem, laying the foundation for the original Gospel message of peace and
love. As this Christ child grew to be a man, he boldly declared that living
peacefully on Earth was the obligation of each and every inhabitant on Earth. For
peace to happen, we each must be willing to love one another, even our enemies,
and to forgive, to let go, when others fail, or offend us.
Now this didn’t go over well with the religious and
political establishment of his day, who rather proclaimed that a Jew must be
willing to fight their oppressors, to kill their enemies, in particular, the
Romans, to restore the prestige and political might of the nation. This political
agenda eventually led to several violent wars against their Roman overlords over
the next century, tragically resulting in the destruction of Jerusalem and the
Temple in 70 CE and then eventually to the Jew’s being permanently kicked out
of Palestine in 136 CE. So it should be no surprise that when these same
religious and political leaders couldn’t get this uppity peace-loving Jewish hippy
to shut up about forgiveness, they nailed him to a cross as a traitor to their
revolutionary cause.
Years later the political elite of the new Christian religion
also pushed aside the peaceful Christ child, concluding that the Jewish elite were
actually right about killing their enemies. The only problem in their mind was
that the Jewish leaders didn’t have the superior Christian god on their side.
As such, the Christian religious and political establishment has waged
innumerable crusades, holy wars, purges, assassinations, and inquisitions
throughout the last two millennia. Today this religious violence continues as American
Christian Nationalists wage war against secular democracy, the Russian Orthodox
Nationalists wage war against their former colony, Ukraine, and then the ideological
descendants of the first century Jewish nationalists continue to wage war against
their Palestinian neighbors in the name their nationalistic god, while various Islamic
nationalists wage war against everyone that is not their particular religious
sect. This pretty much brings us up to date with today’s headlines, which
conspicuously doesn’t mention any sort of “peace on earth” or “goodwill towards
men.”
The celebrated play, Romeo and Juliet, is often portrayed
as the tragic tale of two star-crossed lovers. However, the story is
principally about a violent feud between two prominent families in Verona. It has
very little to do with love or romance. Romeo and Juliet are barely pubescent
teens of around 14 years merely playing at being lovers. Upon meeting at
a masquerade ball one night they impulsively promise to get married the next
day, rashly pledging their enduring commitment to one another. Rather than a
sheer poetic device, compressing time in a literary bottle, this passionate
impulsivity is the point of the play. In the second act, Friar Laurence reflects
upon the dangerous course of these immature passions, warning:
These violent delights have violent
ends And in their triumph die, like fire and powder, Which as they kiss
consume. The sweetest honey Is loathsome in his own deliciousness And in the
taste confounds the appetite. Therefore love moderately; long love doth so; Too
swift arrives as tardy as too slow.
In the previous scene, he waxes on about the paradoxical nature
of life, observing how a plant that is used to heal may also be used to kill,
stating:
Virtue itself turns vice, being
misapplied, And vice sometime by action dignified.
In the very first scene, the violent course of the story unfolds
as members of the two families meet on the streets of Verona, attempting to
provoke a violent confrontation in feigned self-defense. The play descends into
chaos as the hatred between the two feuding families envelops the two naïve
children over the course of a few days, tragically ending in both of their
deaths.
Fundamentally, there is a moral subtext to violence that
circumstantially justifies its use, if not in the societal milieu, then at
least in the mind of the perpetrator. Thus, if I tell a tale of a bloody
encounter between a band of masked interlopers who subdue a hapless soul
knocking him unconscious, wherein the leader subsequently pulls out a knife
plunging it into the now unconscious subject’s abdomen, what moral principle
would one apply to this violent encounter? On one hand, if I say the masked
interlopers are bandits, most would agree that this is a clear tale of vice
having an unambiguous perpetrator and victim. On the other hand, if I say that
the interlopers are a deputized posse coming off a dusty trail to catch a suspect,
the interpretation is less clear as it brings more questions about the deputized
leader’s apparent breach of his authority, stabbing the subdued suspect in the
abdomen.
And yet, if I say that these masked individuals are a
surgical team of doctors and nurses operating on a person with a cancerous
tumor in his abdomen, such violence would generally be interpreted as a virtuous
act between a heroic medical team and the victim of a horrific disease. The
line between virtue and vice is not always clear in the act itself but rather
is a product of the narrative involving the interpretation of the intent of the
actor and the consequence to the target in context to some violation of personal
boundary or societal norm—establishing whether an act is deemed justifiable, homicidal,
accidental, self-defense, or a heroic act of service.
Violence is its own narrative. While
in war there have always been mercenaries whose motivation is their professional
pay, historically most wars are fought on the backs of the poor whose primary motivation
is to support their families and survive another day. The underclass must be
given a reason to fight and to die for king and country. Sometimes it may be
justifiable self-defense, an imminent need to repel some enemy invader that is
a direct threat to the conscript’s family. At other times, however, the ruling
class must manufacture some prejudicial narrative of fear and heroism, typically
invoking a contrived patriotic duty to protect the homeland from some real or
imagined foe. Inevitably on the battlefield the enemy is portrayed as an
unredeemable villain that must be utterly destroyed thus justifying the large
scale killing of one’s mythological enemies.
Archetypally, it is within this Victim-Villain-Victor
power dynamic that all wars and violent actions arise—a heroic fight against a
monstrous foe intent on destroying the lives of oneself or one’s tribal group. However,
these conflictual roles are fluid and malleable, often merging in unorthodox
ways. The moral line between monster and hero is thin, typically
defined by what side of a battlefield or kitchen table you stand on.
Politically, it is often the aim
of propaganda to convince the underclass that they are victims of some
monstrous force and that it is up to them to rise up, risking their lives to
heroically destroy the monster—earning themselves tribal recognition if
they survive or a better place in the afterlife, if they don’t. And sometimes
this propaganda fails in the middle of the fray. Such was the case in what has
become known as the Christmas Truce of 1914 occurring less than five months into
the Great War. In the early days of the war, fraternization across the front
line, which were only separated by a few dozen yards of dirt, was not uncommon.
Thus by Christmas 1914 all across the Western Front the entrenched soldiers on
both sides declared an unofficial truce as they celebrated a common cultural
tradition, sang carols together, played European football, shared family
photos, gave each other gifts, and for a time refused to kill each other. Even when
threatened by superiors, they would only shoot over the heads of their so-called
enemies. The fragile propagandistic framework for violence had come
unraveled and eventually the entire frontline had to be swapped out with new
soldiers who did not see the humanity of the opposing side, leading to one of the
most brutal wars in human history.
Dueling narratives—one emphasizing
our common humanity and the other founded in fear and hatred of those labeled by
the cultural gatekeepers as “your enemy”. However, no one is intrinsically your
enemy. It is a belief system built on a narrative of insecurity driven
by a primal threat of victimization embodied as a struggle against an eternal
monster ever ready to devour its prey. While phobic personalities can be
found across the political spectrum in society, there is a heightened sensitivity
in conservative psychology which sees a threat in the slightest provocation impelled
by a deeper characteristic sense of fear, scarcity, vulnerability, and greed. As
such, these naïve phobic personalities are easy prey to maleficent political and
religious leaders willing to exploit this fear-based world view in order to
create factions and alliances in their favor. Inevitably their imaginary adversaries
are presented as valueless monsters who these timorous surrogates must destroy to
assuage their primal fears, bringing order to a chaotic universe.
This subversive dynamic is played
out in the smaller theater of towns, bars, and living rooms on a daily basis. America,
while by no means unique, has proven to have one of the most consistently gullible
demographics when it comes to indiscriminately accepting conspiracy fantasies
and the acrimonious rhetoric of politicians, religious leaders, social
influencers, and industrial propagandists under the credulous pretense of freedom,
security, or some hidden truth. From the Confederate soldier and
their modern admirers attempting to preserve their racist worldview to the modern
vigilante gun fanatic aiming to defend his paranoid fantasy of power against
his mythical zombified neighbors and tyrannical government agents, and then,
to the diminutive actions of the traditional patriarchal male obsessed with controlling
the intricate details of women’s life in society and at home, violence has
become endemic to American life.
Many Americans are convinced that
they must be ready and willing to use violence as an essential tool to solve conflicts
or to get their way, demonstrating a pervasive lack of maturity, critical
thinking, and prosocial morality. This violent tendency is often projected onto
some demonized outsider, often imagined as a black or brown gangbanger involved
in organized criminal activity, providing an excuse to build an arsenal of
weaponry at home. However, the actual incidence of gang violence pales in
comparison to the actual statistics for domestic violence, rapes, brawls, assaults,
racially motivated attacks, domestic homicides, and suicides born of this same
violent imagination against those nearest. Most of this violence is committed inside
our homes or communities by and towards people we know, work and go to church
with, or regularly pass in the street.
One in three girls and one in five
boys will have experienced sexual assaults by the time they reach adulthood. Movies
and video games desensitize our responsiveness to cruelty and the moral
prohibitions against harming others. Many police departments are trained to operate
on a war footing against the public, to kill incautiously at the slightest jittery
provocation, under the militaristic creed of kill or be killed. Public servants
are regularly threatened by politically motivated partisans fueled by fear-mongering
politicians that target and dehumanize their political foes for political gain.
One in five families have been in some way affected directly by gun violence. Nearly
a quarter of individuals will be assaulted by a domestic partner in their
lifetime. Rather than some dark faceless boogeyman hiding in the shadows, the
violence is coming from inside the house--we have met the enemy, and he is us.
So how does one become a violent perpetrator in the public or
household theaters--to take up the mantle of harming others? Beneath the dark
exterior of violent action lies our personal sense of morality, the sacred
boundaries that define who we are. South African anti-apartheid leader, Nelson
Mandela, referring to the narratives we use to justify violence, warned:
When we dehumanise and demonise our
opponents, we abandon the possibility of peacefully resolving our differences,
and seek to justify violence against them.
To understand violence, we need to understand the stories that
define our moral boundaries. Some of these stories come from our lived
experience and other narratives are inculcated through education, propaganda, and
cultural norms. These narrative principles build the moral edifice of what we
feel is right or wrong. Some of the planks of this edifice don’t really fit
neatly together. We are a menagerie of ethical contradictions—some of these planks
are built of iron, well thought out and universal, and some of straw, born of
pain and primitive defenses.
Fundamentally, humans are motivated by and then act on what
they feel is right or good. Even the most despicable immoral behavior by
societal standards seems right to the actor based on some personal rationale—if
for no other reason than it feels good or produces a sense of relief from some internal
or external pressure. Any theater or movie actor that has ever realistically
portrayed a villain will tell you that they had to find the underlying
motivation of why the villain’s behavior made sense to them. In many modes of psychotherapy
the intent of the process is to uncover the stories that make a certain
behavior make sense to the client. But then also to develop an empathy for how
that behavior might affect others.
Many describe violent behavior as being motivated by anger.
But anger is not a thing, in and of itself. Emotions are reactions, they
exist only as a response to a stimulus or event. Anger is an emotional agent in
service to one’s boundaries. It is an energy that arises in response to some
sense of threat to one’s boundaries being violated. Constructively, it gives us
the power to fight back, to restore the integrity of a broken boundary. However,
there is typically no momentary rational evaluation whether that boundary is healthy
or unhealthy, or whether a real violation has even occurred. It is usually an unconscious
response to a perceived event.
Thus violence is always justified. Perhaps not in the
context of the greater good but it always has its own reason for the
perpetrator. In order for us to have choices, to begin to act more
constructively and empathetically in our relationships with others, we must
become conscious of our own reasons.
If perchance, as a hypothetical matter of discourse, I am
sitting in a bar and a stranger approaches who looks menacingly at me.
Defensively, I turn and punch him in the face. In order to understand my
action, one would need to examine the story behind my boundary that made me
feel like I needed to protect myself. By deconstructing this perceived
violation one might find some past narrative of vulnerability that was evoked
by this ominous stranger that was interpreted as threatening my well-being in
some way. This triggered narrative put me on heightened alert to protect myself.
I now perceive myself to be the victim of his villainous intentions. I might
feel anger or fear based on this approaching threat. I see myself as heroically
standing up to punish the interloper, to protect myself, throwing a right hook
to his jaw in order to judiciously restore the integrity of my perceived boundaries.
Principally, justice is often described as the personal motivation
for violence—a duty to punish some transgression. But this is just a surface
narrative. In the previous example, was I in any real danger? Was the stranger
actually intending to harm me? Why did I feel attacked by this stranger’s seemingly
offensive stare? Why did I feel that my response should be to physically strike
out and harm the stranger? Within the rules of society, was my action even justified?
The answers to these questions formulate an unconscious moral code based on
prior life experiences which establishes my personal boundaries. In the moment,
however, all I was aware of was that I felt threatened and angry. Thus, I instinctually
reacted to try to ameliorate the threat.
In the relational mythology of the Torah-Gospel that leads
up to the proclamation of “peace on earth, goodwill towards men,” mature moral
development is portrayed as being “compassionate and gracious, slow to anger,
abounding in kindness and truth.” Later, Rabbi Jeshua of the Gospel accounts summarizes
this as loving one another.
However, in the moralistic Christian interpretation of the
Gospel based on the neo-apostle Paul’s teachings, the moral dynamic of love is given
various qualifications based on “forgiveness,” that is, conditionally choosing to
withhold punishment from someone that has already been condemned as guilty,
symbolized by Jesus dying on the cross for your sins. The Christian god’s
moralistic response to “sin” is that one is judged guilty first, condemned to
be punished second, and then conditionally forgiven third (if all the right
conditions are met). Without going further in to detail here, as I have covered
this more broadly in several other writings, neither sin nor forgiveness
are actual translations of the concepts in the underlying text. What is in the Gospel
accounts is a issue of personal or relational discipline, “failing to meet a
goal” often in context indicating a failure to love someone, and then an
essential psychological principle of “letting go.” This correlates to the moral
dynamic underlying “graciousness” as possessing a spirit of openness and
generosity towards others.
Thus, in the original relational mythology, the principle of
graciously letting go describes a mature state of being in which one’s
boundaries are open and permeable. The actions of others are not interpreted as
a violation of my own boundaries—there is no critical spirit of condemnation or
judgment. A mature individual is confident and complete in their own narrative personhood.
They are detached from the moral narratives of others and do not personalize or
projectively moralize another’s behavior. If someone happens to look at me funny,
rather than interpreting that as a moral affront, I may rather wonder what is
going on with that stranger who has this disturbed appearance. I may even reach
out to that stranger to offer kindness and compassion in an attempt to improve
their unsettled condition. Even if they return my offering with overt
hostility, I am not disturbed in my own narrative of well-being. My state of
mind is detached from their behavior. I am not compelled to engage their
narrative of hostility.
As the common aphorism states, it takes two to tango. In my real-life
experience, many years ago, I was out with some female coworkers at a bar
enjoying conversation and drinks after work. Eventually, some strange fellow
came up from behind, tapped me on the shoulder, oddly asking if these were “my
women.” Uninspired by his questioning, I simply said yes and turned back
to my friends. But he was looking for a fight, and demanded we step outside. The
conversation was obviously quite ridiculous, and I just looked unimpressed at
his feeble attempt at picking a fight, not mockingly or even with any sense of
superiority or condescension, just completely disengaged by its absurdity.
Whereas he expected me to get up and say, “oh yeah, let’s go,” I merely
returned a quizzical look. I did not engage his barroom bravado.
And not because of any great wisdom on my part. I suppose
that somewhere deep down I may have been influenced by my earlier martial arts
training that the best way to not get hit is to step aside without engaging, to
stay out of the way of a punch, or otherwise, to not get into a fight. But in
the moment, I was genuinely in a different place, a different world all
together. Thus, when I failed to engage his narrative of belligerency, he was
left dangling, knocking the wind out of his sails. Emotionally deflated, he then
just turned around and walked away. Violence is its own narrative, and we
always have a choice whether to become a part of it—whether to become a part of
someone else’s story, or to stay true to our own.
This developmental narrative of being secure in one’s own
personhood is illustrated in the fundamental difference between the opposing
views of the protagonist Yahweh in the Torah-Gospel mythology. In the immature moralistic
tradition based on the neo-Apostle Paul’s prophesies and the writings of later
Christian theologians, the protagonist of this synthesized mythology is the angry
god who is fundamentally enmeshed in the behavior of humankind. Any imperfect
behavior by humankind is a personal affront to the Christian god who
characteristically has a narcissistic, obsessive-compulsive, borderline
personality which craves being worshipped, can’t handle disorder or failure,
and will conditionally “love” humanity until they disappoint him, causing him
to horribly torture them for eternity. The only way to reconcile with this holy
god obsessed with the imperfection of others is to offer a transactional human
sacrifice, the shedding of the purest blood to pacify his anger.
Violence is the transformational dynamic of salvation in
Christianity symbolized by the cross. Paul’s deviant theology mixes Jewish
moralism and Hellenistic idolism with elements of the original Gospel mythology
to spawn another variation of the Victim-Villain-Victor archetype—a form of
transactional idolism at the tangled core of the human condition and the catalyst
for most religious behavior. The Villain-Victor is the two-faced deity in the
moralistic tradition in which rewards and punishments are merited based on
whether one satisfies the desires and appetites of the gods or otherwise incurs
the wrath of their disappointment.
On the other hand, in the unadulterated relational Torah
Gospel mythology as written, the protagonist is rather the Good Father
introduced in the Genesis Creation myth who eventually describes his own
character to Moses as compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in
kindness and truth. The original familial paradigm is a variation of the
Lover-Beloved archetype of a Loving Parent’s relationship to his children. As a
mature parental archetype, Yahweh is not enmeshed in the success or failure of
his children as they develop in their own maturity. All failures are let go
with the only exception being to slander or misrepresent his mature loving character
as the Good Parent upon which a healthy familial relationship is founded. In
the relational Gospel, the way of peace, love, and truth of the Anointed Son represents
the father’s maturity which is contrasted in the mythology with the way of
violence represented in the contemporary Jewish tradition of the Messianic
Warrior-King who was expected to come and destroy Israel’s enemies restoring
the political might of the mythic Davidic Kingdom.
Regardless of the historical mythological framework one
accepts as their spiritual practice or primary influence, the underlying
dynamics of these archetypal constructs are present in each one of us. Due to our
tendency to have a deep-seated sense of vulnerability in a perceived world of
scarcity, the imbalanced power dynamic of the Victim-Villain-Victor archetype will
often dominate our psychological disposition. Thus, our violent tendencies
ultimately arise out of weakness, not strength, as Ralph Waldo Emerson observed:
All violence, all that is dreary
and repels, is not power, but the absence of power.
On the other hand, the power dynamic of the Lover-Beloved
archetype comes from a deeper, inner strength leading to a spirit of
inclusivity and service towards others. It only develops with maturity as we
embrace our authentic nature, both strengths and weaknesses, in relationship
with one another.
As such, the advent of peace on earth only manifests if we
engage in our own moral development learning to open ourselves up to others, to
value community through mutual cooperation. Rather than becoming
self-sufficient and self-serving, we humbly choose to rely on others to support
us in our weaknesses as we in turn support others in their moment of need.
In the mid-twentieth century, the Indian civil rights peace activist
Mahatma Gandhi, embracing the truth of the Lover-Beloved archetype as the inner
path of moral development, taught that the way to confront injustice was
through authentic nonviolence, explaining:
The way of peace is the way of
truth. Indeed, lying is the mother of violence. A truthful man cannot long
remain violent. He will perceive in the course of his search that he has no
need to be violent and he will further discover that so long as there is the
slightest trace of violence in him, he will fail to find the truth he is
seeking.
Later in the century, the American
civil rights activist, Martin Luther King, Jr, would expand on Gandhi’s
philosophy of nonviolence, stating:
Nonviolence is
the answer to the crucial political and moral questions of our time: the need
for man to overcome oppression and violence without resorting to oppression and
violence. Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects
revenge, aggression, and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.
An ancient Gospel proverb advises, “You will know a tree by
its fruit.” As such, our essential sense of authority fundamentally evolves out
of our experience of either the archetypal Villain-Victor or the Good Parent in
guiding our moral development. If the god or central principle we choose to
accept as the authority in our life is moralistic, cruel, and self-serving,
valuing some lives over others, then we will become moralistic, cruel, and
self-serving, valuing some lives over others. On the other hand, if the central
authority of our life narrative is founded in love based on our shared identity
as a universal family motivated by compassion, graciousness, tolerance,
kindness, and truth, then we will internalize this powerful moral narrative yielding
the fruit of compassion, graciousness, tolerance, kindness, and truth.
Peace on earth begins with goodwill towards all humanity. As
we mature to become more secure within our own identity and boundaries, we are
free to let go of any need to control the behavior of others, to let go of revenge,
aggression, and retaliation. Love grows out of the fertile ground of
compassion, graciousness, tolerance, kindness, and truth—planting the seeds in
our daily lives that build a community at peace with one another.